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i no longer remember how i met n (weird how the passage of time does that). we set up the first meeting at a bar in monona, and when he came in, my first impression was that he looked like cameron from ferris bueller. except cuter, of course. 
we had great conversation at the bar and enjoyed each other’s company. as we were leaving, we agreed to email and set up another time to get together. i’ll never forget, he said “if i had my way, i’d be taking you home with me right now.” just the way he said it, and my impression that it wasn’t something he would say lightly…made my heart skip a beat.
i went to his house the next week, quite excited. we sat on his couch and drank some wine, and my heart skipped several beats when he leaned over and kissed me. the chemistry between us was INSANE. we made out on the couch for a while, then went upstairs to the bedroom.
we never had sex, but we did pretty much everything but. he was the only guy ever to have fisted me…it was okay. i felt like i’d been beaten with a baseball bat down there the next day. he never made me come, but it was definitely very hot and very electric between us.
we’ve stayed in touch every so often, and have agreed that if things ever change with my marriage that i’m to contact him first thing.
